The Ariana Grande Concert.

ariana

 

To describe the terror attack on the Ariana Grande concert in Manchester as heartbreaking would be an understatement. No words could describe the atrocity of what has happened. How any human being could calculate a plan to target and murder a mass number of people, including such young, innocent children, is something that we will never be able to understand. We live in a world where a person can wake up one day and decide that today is the day they are going to take lives. To take childrens’ lives and futures away from them. To take children away from their parents. We live in a world where any sick fuck can take everything away from us at any time. It’s sick and it’s incomprehensible but it’s a fact.

Ariana’s fan base consists mostly of teenagers. The arena will have been filled with teenagers. Music plays such an important part in all of our lives at any age, it is with us consistently throughout our lives, but music for teenagers is vital. In our teenage years we are constantly looking for things to relate to as we are going through the confusing time of discovering who we are. Teenagers latch on to their favourite musicians whose words and voices are now, more than ever, accessible 24 hours a day thanks to social media and streaming apps such as Spotify. Their music can make them feel part of something and understood at times when they’ve never felt so alone or misunderstood. Pop Divas are often latched onto and have some of the largest, strongest followings of teenagers. As a teenager, I latched onto Britney Spears and Rihanna. For the current generation Ariana has proven to be an extremely popular choice.

Thinking back to my teenage years, all of my best memories were made at concerts and music festivals. The excitement of these events wasn’t just about music, it was about the freedom. Nothing provided me more joy than rushing home from school to secretly make a customised ‘I kissed a boy’ t-shirt, then meeting my friends at Lime Street to go get the train to Manchester for Katy Perry’s first tour. Leeds Festival 2010 remains the best week of my life. Concerts and festivals are the escape every teenager needs to step out from their parents’ shadows and go to these events with the people that they love to just be themselves and have fun. That’s all these events are meant to be. Fun. Music is made to bring people together.

This is what I don’t understand. Did this vile murderer attend the full concert? Did they stand in the audience alongside everyone else? Did they watch the joy on these innocent childrens’ faces and hear them sing? All the time knowing, they were about to take their lives, their joy and the joy of their loved ones away from them. I just don’t understand. How you could witness this and feel their energy and still carry out this unforgivable act? How could someone get to that point where they have absolutely no humanity or empathy left inside of them? It’s absolutely terrifying.

A lot of music snobs will only know Ariana as the girl with the ponytail who looks like a child trying to dress sexy and that she licked a doughnut that one time. To her fans she is so much more. Ariana and her music have a very simple message; a message of acceptance, empowerment, equality, liberation and love. Ariana is a strong, opinionated young woman who consistently uses her voice to call out bullshit. She attended the Women’s March in Washington. She paraded the LBGT flag on stage. She incorporated all forms of love in her music video for Everday.  Yet, she is still often criticised for not being ‘the perfect feminist’. Who the fuck is? She is an activist in her own right and to many of the people who attended her concert last night she would have been a positive role model that brought them so much joy.

This tragedy is not about Ariana. The guilt she is probably feeling, due to drawing these innocent people into the place where they have so devastatingly lost their lives, cannot compare to the pain that the victims’ families will be going through. Or the pain of the survivors. Just to make it very clear, Ariana is in no way responsible for the tragedy. Full responsibility lies in one person and one person alone. However, people are still taking the opportunity to take a cheap, vile shot. Boston ‘journalist’, David Leavitt, saw it as the perfect time to tweet, “Last time I listened to Ariana Grande I almost died too.”. Blinded by the opportunity to make fun of a woman, his tiny little mind probably didn’t even consider the victims, their families or the wounded survivors. Take a look at your surname David and fucking leave it. It’s not the time and it never will be.

It is however the time to do what we always have to do and do so well in these times. Unite. As of 9 minutes ago, people in Manchester have already donated enough blood for the victims of the attack. Taxi drivers turned off their metres after the attack to transport people to safety, free of charge. The people of Manchester opened their doors to the concert attenders.  People on Facebook are frantically trying to reunite families through sharing their posts. Everyone is doing their best and that’s all we can do.

Unfortunately, we can’t rid the world of the vile people who commit these despicable acts and we can’t promise something like this will never happen again. But we also can’t live in fear. We’ve got to carry on doing the things that we love. Concerts, and their security, will obviously now change forever but we can’t not attend them out of fear. Just like we can’t avoid the London Underground forever. Or LBGT night clubs. Or Paris. We have got to carry on living. Living and remembering the 22 who had that opportunity stolen from them last night. Evil will always exist but so will love and strength.

Also, now is not the time to voice racist opinions. Keep them to yourselves. A time of fear does not make it acceptable to use a whole community as a scapegoat. Regardless of the race/gender/religion/sexuality, whatever this murderer may have been, they do not define every other member of the community that they may have belonged to.

Keep singing. Keep dancing. Keep living.

Missing People < click the link for a Telegraph article including details of missing people –  Share.

Greater Manchester Police Emergency Hotline: 01618569400

 

 

Advertisements

Poverty Princess on Tear-Jerking Pop Songs

10 Pop Songs Perfect for Pondering Dying Alone

tumblr_ls4v0hewib1r3ty02o1_500

 

Do you ever get that feeling where you just stop feeling at all? You’ve been through all the motions; frustration, distress, regret, heartbreak. All you want to do is cry, but not a single tear will form in the corners of your eyes. I find this lack of feeling usually resonates in 3 different circumstances:

  1. When you finally give up chasing after the one who’s just never going to want you back.
  2. When you realise that the one you’re with is no longer the one that you want.
  3. When you’ve begged them to stay, but they leave you anyway.

I’ve much more experience with the first and I’ll always remember my friend telling me I just needed to cry, grieve the loss and move on. But no matter how hard I tried, I just could not cry. If you can’t get past Step 1 then you’ve got no chance of passing Step 3.

Until now.

If this compilation of tear-jerkers doesn’t unclog your blocked tear-ducts, then you’re well and truly dead inside. There’s no bringing you back to life now. Rest in peace.

I’m joking. There’s still hope.

Put your earphones in. Turn the lights off. And cry my friend. Let it all out.

Wake up in the morning. Put your mask on. Get on with your day.

And repeat.

  1. Lies – Marina & The Diamonds

 

 

Sob Scale: 9/10

Perfect for when you realise the Bastard whose led you on for months is just not that into you.

Best listened to with your face pressed against the bus window whilst it is raining.

Strongest Lyrics:

You’re too proud to say that you’ve made a mistake

You’re a coward ’til the end

I don’t wanna admit, but we’re not gonna fit

No, I’m not the type that you like

Why don’t we just pretend?

  1. Just A Little Bit Of Your Heart – Ariana Grande

 

Sob Scale: 6/10

Perfect for when you finally understand that the one you love is never going to give you exclusivity and you wish you could be okay with that.

Best listened to with your back pressed against a radiator, drinking a glass of mulled wine in winter. Knee-high socks and oversized jumper optional.

Strongest Lyrics:

I know I’m not your only

But at least I’m one

I heard a little love

Is better than none.

  1. Everytime – Britney Spears

 

Sob Scale: 7/10

Perfect for when you regret screwing someone over and finally see how foolish you were to let them go.

Best listened to in the bath of course!

Strongest Lyrics:

I may have made it rain

Please forgive me

My weakness caused you pain

And this song’s my sorry

At night I pray

That soon your face will fade away.

  1. Love Without Tragedy/ Mother Mary – Rihanna

 

 

Sob Scale: 8.5/10

Perfect for when you look back on the monster that you wasted years on, and although he almost destroyed you, from time to time you wonder if they’ve changed and if it could work this time.

Best listened to laying across the backseat of a car, being driven down a motorway at night.

Strongest Lyrics:

You used to be this boy I loved

And I used to be this girl of your dreams

Who knew the course of this one drive

Injured us fatally

You took the best years of my life

I took the best years of your life

Felt like love struck me in the night

I pray that love don’t strike twice.

  1. Grand Piano – Nicki Minaj

 

Sob Scale: 7.5/10

Perfect for when you receive an intervention from your friends who are sick of seeing you cry over a loser.

Best listened to in bed, trying to fall asleep at night, spooning a pillow.

Strongest Lyrics:

Am I being a fool?

Wrapped up in lies and foolish truths

What do I see in you?

Maybe I’m addicted to all the things you do

Cause I keep thinking you are the one who came to take claim of this heart

Cold-hearted, shame you’ll remain just afraid in the dark.

  1. Better – Banks

 

Sob Scale: 9.5/10

Perfect for when you can’t get over someone who is in love with someone else.

Best listened to walking through the woods when it’s really, really windy.

Strongest Lyrics:

How couldn’t you see

All the water’s cold, cold, cold, cold, cold….

While you lied to me

You hide in your hole, hole, hole, hole, hole…

And why

Don’t you see?

Baby try

Try to see

Yeah, try, yeah

I can love you better than she can.

  1. Until We Bleed – Lykke Li

 

Sob Scale: 10/10

Perfect for when you miss the one you kept trying to fix and hoping they’re doing better now.

Best listened to jogging alongisde a river at night when it is foggy. With the occasional passing car’s headlights shining on you like a spotlight.

Strongest Lyrics:

Doors slam

Lights black

You’re gone

Come back

Stay gone

Stay clean

I need you to need me

So we’re bound to linger on

We drink the fatal drop

Then love until we bleed

Then fall apart in part.

  1. Breathe Me – Sia

 

Sob Scale: 9/10

Perfect for when you still haven’t recovered from the one that you always thought was going to save you, leaving you.

Best listened to walking through the city centre at midnight, wrapped up in a huge scarf.

Strongest Lyrics:

Help, I have done it again

I have been here many times before

Hurt myself again today

And the worst part is there’s no one else to blame

Be my friend, hold me

Wrap me up, unfold me

I am small, and needy

Warm me up, and breathe me.

  1. If I Were A Boy – Beyoncé

 

Sob Scale: 5/10

Perfect for when you still hurt from all the lying and the cheating.

Best listened to cycling around the park in Summer on a rented bike.

Strongest Lyrics:

It’s a little too late for you to come back

Say it’s just a mistake

Think I’d forgive you like that

If you thought I would wait for you

You thought wrong

But you’re just a boy

You don’t understand

Yeah you don’t understand

How it feels to love a girl someday

You’ll wish you were a better man

You don’t listen to her

You don’t care how it hurts

Until you lose the one you wanted

Cause you’ve taken her for granted

And everything you have got destroyed

But you’re just a boy…

  1. Dancing On My Own – Robyn

 

Sob Scale: 8/10

Perfect for questioning why you were just never good enough for that ex.

Best listened to in a club at the end of the night, when you’re an absolute mess and have lost all your friends.

Strongest Lyrics:

So far away, but still so near

(The lights go on, the music dies)

But you don’t see me standing here

(I just came) to say goodbye

I’m in the corner

Watching you kiss her

Oh oh oh

I’m giving it my all

But I’m not the girl you’re taking home

Ooh ooh ooh

I keep dancing on my own (I keep dancing on my own)